My ping is ranging from ~16 to about 100-something.
ksl94, something wrong with your server. How much RAM do you have? What version of Windows 7?
x32 versions cannot allocate more than 4GB of RAM (escept Home Basic, which can allocate 2GB, as I can remember), but applications can't use more than 2GB without /3GB and /USERVA keys. FH2 client may use up to 1,5-1,7 GB, depedent on settings. If you have 3GB (for example), you'll have not enough RAM for server process, especially with large amount of bots.
Firstly, try to execute cmd.exe -> tracert [your local server IP] > [path], i.e. tracert 192.168.1.2 > C:\tracrt.txt, and attach the file, or just copy the text to your post.
Secondly, try to trace an amount of RAM and % of CPU load for you server process and for client. You can do it with Riva Tuner (for example), in monitoring tab (just enable appropriate modules). Or - use Task Manager ))
since I received an error message telling me that the server canna be found
Very strange...
Probably, thirdly you can try to copy the content of route print command (route print > [path] ).
Did you update your Win7? Do you have admininstrative rights?