So update:
ive uninstalled the game and all everything a few times, I realized i didnt have the 1.41 or 1.5 patches to my knwledge, so I downloaded the 1.41 and installed it then installed the 1.5, then installed the mod, then the map pack, then the revival thing and couldnt find any FH2 servers. SO i launched the game from the Forgotten Hopes launcher in windowed mode. I then tried joining the aforementioned server and my game closed. No error message, it just fucking closed. Pardon my language but I have literally spent half the day trying to get this to work and I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing wrong. So here is a play by play.
1. Installed battlefield 2
2. downloaded the patches from
http://www.fileplanet.com/160777/160000/fileinfo/Battlefield-2-Patch-v1.41 and
http://www.moddb.com/games/battlefield-2/downloads/battlefield-2-v15-patch3. had an error where the patch couldnt find the directory, fixed the problem and installed.
4. downloaded and installed forgotten hopes from the installer link on this website
5. installed the community thing from the link here
http://www.762-ranking.de/site/viewtopic.php?f=26&t=326. I installed the commutiy map pack
7. downloaded and installed the Bf launch pak thing suggested in a previous reply to this thread.
8. launched the game through ^ and could not find any of the servers on this website's Server list, or the one I was trying to get on.
9. Launched the FH2 launcher and tried joining the aforementioned server. Game closes, no error message.
10. retry in windowed mode, same issue.
11. retry the relauncher pak thing, no server. try direct connecting. game closes.
12. rinse and repeat a few dozen times.
PLEASE if there is anyone on this green earth who can help me, please lend a hand.