Despite all the bugs, I´m getting more and more sucked into this.
A few tips to avoid frustration that I figured out:
*play other gamemodes than conquest(or whatever they call it in RO), the ones that that don't allow constant respawning (I forget what they are called) Although they punish dieing more severly, I found these gamemodes easier to start with. You know the general direction of the enemy and can avoid getting killed from god knows where
*If you do play conquest, start with a small server, 32 players max. You can go 64 once you have learned the main mechanics and know your way around the maps a bit.
*Don't stay near windows longer than it takes to fire one or two shots. Constant relocation is key in this game.
* When you become under fire from an unknown location, get out of there. Fight the urge to try and return fire from that same position. The enemy has a clear advantage over you in a situation like this and you are likely to end up dead in 2 seconds.
These rather simple princibles helped me enjoy this game so much more, even though I´m at a disadvantage here with my struggle with the controls.
One final thought: gameplay varies a lot from server to server, there are a lot more settings than just realism and relaxed. If you are not enjoying yourself, try another server.